Dialog with a dear Friend…
SiriJodha Khalsa: Thanks for telling me about AH Almaas. Today I listened to an interview with him and really enjoyed it. It expressed so clearly many of my views and experiences, as well as adding new perspectives such as consciousness constantly experimenting with ways to reveal itself.
SiriJodha Khalsa: Then, just now, the thought occurred to – all the teachers who speak a wisdom that resonates with me (Ekhart, Mooji, AH) are similar in certain ways – they are highly intelligent and articulate but speak in a very straightforward, no nonsense manner. The main thing, however, that hit me was – they are ALL MALE. Why? Is the experience of awakening as described by these people unique to males, or at least the way it is experienced and expressed? Do females who have such an awakening manifest this in different ways and don’t feel as compelled to broadcast it by becoming teachers?
SiriJodha Khalsa: My curiosity is not so much about why there aren’t more female spiritual teachers, but rather whether there is a fundamental difference in the way men and women approach spirituality. The notion of conquering the ego, getting out of one’s head, developing the ability to dwell in thoughtlessness, ending suffering by obtaining freedom from attachments – are these predominantly male concerns? How does a fully actualized female differ from a fully actualized male? Is gender irrelevant? Or is female spirituality fundamentally different in some ways?
SiriJodha Khalsa: Thinking back to the interview with AH, he was talking with the interviewer about being connected with him in the heart, but his words and expressions didn’t carry much of an emotional load. I can imagine the conversation with a female interviewer might have had different feeling to it.
SiriJodha Khalsa: You see, I get accused by my wife and daughter of being too detached. This comes up when they are suffering an emotional crisis and while I sympathize, I distance myself emotionally, I don’t get wrapped up in the drama and therefore appear emotionally unavailable and unsupportive.
SiriJodha Khalsa: One could do a survey of the self-help literature and identify, probably just from the titles, distinct differences between male and female authors, the latter emphasizing transcendence and the latter emphasizing connectedness. This, of course, is a gross oversimplification, but perhaps points to a core issue regarding how men and women approach spirituality.